Man, erectile dysfunction or ed or p-e-I-e-d, is one of the most embarrassing most emasculating things you can experience with a woman in bed. I mean you’re sitting there you’re building up to it, you’re so excited you want to have sex with her that moment’s finally coming, maybe it’s your long-term girlfriend or wife, and you just can’t get it up your mind says I want this. I want to be able to please her. I want to have sex with her, but your body is just not listening. Well in this video, I’m going to give you five different reasons why you’re experiencing ed and how to overcome them. Now these reasons are probably not what your doctor is going to tell you. They are different because, as a licensed therapist over the past 10 years, I’ve been helping men overcome porn addiction, improve their sex life, their dating life with women, and I’m telling you, by the end of this video you’ll, have five unique perspectives and different, unique ways of overcoming this issue. So you can have a fulfilling and happy sex life with your partner or future girlfriends or wives or whatever it is. Did I say, wives, multiple wives? Well, if you’re mormon, maybe that too anyways, let’s jump into it, let’s get the first obvious one out of the way. The first reason you’re experiencing ed is because you watch too much porn and you have way too much dopamine when it comes to your sexual arousal. Now, if you’re saying to yourself that porn has no attachment towards your sexual performance, you’re, either an addict or you’re just lying to yourself, I mean I’m not going to count all the studies that show the direct correlation with the amount of porn you consume and erectile dysfunction. If you want those sources check out your brain on porn or check gary wilson’s website your brain on porn.com, to get all those studies and plus plenty of more that connects e.d to porn use. But essentially here’s what’s happening. Look when you go to watch porn, there’s something called the conditioned stimulus. This is the same thing that pavlov did with his dogs. Basically he would have them ring a bell and then food would come in so the dogs would salivate. So you have a triggered stimulus connected with another stimulus. The food connected with the dog’s response now, what you’re doing when you watch porn is kind of similar when you open up your laptop right or your phone or whatever. It is you’re saying to yourself that the physiological reaction of getting it up and getting off is connected to visual images. It’s connected to the whole process of how you getting lotion, there’s so many other processes involved that don’t connect with actually the performance and the whole system, and what’s the word, I’m looking for the whole ritual of sex. So if your body is so used to countless hours, like sometimes thousands for many men since the age of 11, 12 13 years old, of getting it up with a computer, then when you finally go to a woman, your your body’s going to be like yo. What are we doing? This isn’t how we usually get it up and there’s going to be a disconnect, and it’s just not going to happen. If you need help quitting porn yourself, I have a program called dopamine discipline where hundreds of men are finally quitting porn for good. I don’t care if they’ve been decades watching porn since the age of 11 12 years old. They tried everything. This program works. If you want information on that, the link will be down below, but let’s just jump into number two. The second reason why you can’t get it up while you have erectile dysfunction, is you’re in your head way too. Damn much now look wherever your attention goes: energy flows, wherever energy flows, so does blood blood, is essentially the physical organism of energy right, and so, when you’re having sex with a girl. If you’re stuck in here all the brain. Excuse me if you’re stuck in here, all the blood is flowing to where it’s not supposed to right. You’re stuck in your head, you’re, not in the present moment with her, and it’s not going to where it’s supposed to now. There could be a million reasons why you are stuck in your head. I mean there’s a famous quote or sayings that goes. The preacher would think about having sex with his wife when he was praying and he would think about praying when he was having sex with his wife right. This is just showing that he wasn’t in the present moment and for whatever reason, you’re stuck in your head. Maybe it’s anxiety about how you’re going to perform with a girl, maybe you’re thinking to yourself that you have other issues going on in your life. That’s distracting you from really wanting to have sex and be there with her in the present moment, whatever it is, if you’re stuck in your head- and you can’t get into the moment with a girl during sex. That could be another cause for this issue. Now as a quick little aid to this, I would practice daily meditation at least 10 minutes a day and when you’re practicing, this meditation actually visualize having sex with a girl while you’re meditating, and so it’s connecting being in the present moment being in your body with a sexual performance act. Okay, that’s a really good way to help that the third reason you may have ed or sexual performance issues is because you are thinking of what you don’t want now look all the brain hears is what we think about. We simultaneously get two things in life. What we want and what we don’t want so, if you’re focused on with a girl in bed and you’re thinking, okay, I don’t want edie. I don’t want to have a soft dick. I don’t want to have soft dick. Not only is it putting you in your head, like the last one, but your brain’s, giving you exactly what you’re thinking about right. It’s giving you this anxiety when we have anxiety again, the blood flow, the blood flows to our limbs out to fight or flight mode right and away from the central nervous system where the blood should be during sex right, and so what happens essentially. Is that when you’re constantly thinking about what you don’t want and you’re getting nervous you’re getting anxious, all this anxiety is putting you in your head more going back to the number two, and it’s really taking you out of the moment and when you constantly do this, it really just is this negative cycle of have more anxiety, be more in your head, no performance! Now that you’re not having performance or getting it up, you’re more anxiety, you’re more in your head and it’s just kind of downward spiral, and it leaves you just feeling embarrassed and shameful, which is the next one number four is shame. Now I was working with a client and he came to me actually for erectile dysfunction, disorder and porn use. Now, essentially, what we did with the bulk of our work is that we focused on his shame cycle, why he had so much shame attached towards sexuality. He grew up. Super religious, his parents never talked about sex, and so when he was in the bedroom with a girl, he felt like it wasn’t. Okay, it wasn’t comfortable, it wasn’t a natural thing to have sex with the girl, and so what this essentially did is that when he was in bed with her naked, he had so much shame about not only his own body about his own performance issues, whether he was going to make the girl happy, but about just sex. In general. Now we went to the back past issues looking at his trauma sexually and about all the things his father in society taught him about sex and we rewired that we changed his values around that we made him believe that sex was actually a productive and happy thing that it’s okay to have sex. There’s no shame associated with that act. You see, you may have some buried subconscious values and beliefs that are preventing you from letting go of that shame you see when you’re in the shame cycle, you’re telling yourself that you’re, not a good person that you don’t deserve good things and sex is one of the most beautiful and amazing things that you can experience. But if you have shame associated with that act, your body and your mind is not going to allow you to enjoy it because well, you’re saying to yourself. I don’t deserve this, but if you can go to the root cause understanding the shame, then you can overcome it now. The fifth and final reason you are experiencing ed and how to overcome it. Is you don’t have control over your breath? You see the way you breathe affects where your blood flows, and if you can control your breath, you can control your energy and your attention and where you want your blood to flow now, the next time you are with a girl. I want you to be more aware more conscious of how you’re breathing are you breathing shallow or deep? Are you breathing fast or slow? Are you breathing in your nose or through your mouth, the best way to breathe when you’re having sex with a girl, or at least ramping up to that area? Is I want you to breathe slowly in your nose and not your mouth, the more you do this, the more you will allow your natural physiology to take over and what’s natural is that you will get it up. You see, you may notice that the next time you are experiencing ed, you’re, probably breathing, really shallow in your breath super light when you practice that meditation and the visualization technique, I told you about about slowly getting to the present moment. I also want you to practice this breathing technique. I want you to slowly breathe in and imagine that energy going down all the way to your balls, like literally going down into your genitals and then breathing out your mouth and when you’re with a girl, here’s a little mental technique. I want you to do. I want you to try to get out of your head as much as possible, but if you need something to think about to slowly get used to this process, I want you to think about how the girl feels. I don’t want you to focus on yourself. You see the biggest issue with ed is that you are concerned about your own needs, you’re concerned about so much in your head about how you’re going to look. Your own ego is like. Are you going to perform? Well? Are you going to get it up? You’re, thinking about you, you you! You me me me me, you get it so, the next time you’re about to girl or you’re ramping up with her. I want you to think about her think about how you’re making her feel be super attuned to the way she feels how she’s moaning, what she’s doing with her face like give it all your attention to her make sex nothing to do with you, I’m telling you, if you can do this 110, where you’re making sex completely about her her needs her wants giving her what to making her feel good, focusing on her solely if you get so involved with how she feels you will not care about. What’s going on with you and you’ll naturally get it up, so those are five unique ways: unique perspectives on how to really overcome your ed. I hope they helped if they did press the like button to help other men who really gross the channel. It helps me out tremendously just smash that one button right there. It’s really helpful. 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